Please Don't Ghost Your Therapist

It’s 2023. The age of fast-paced connections and virtual relationships are well upon us, and it's easier than ever to vanish into the virtual void. Here, we’ll explore a topic that I get asked about frequently - the art of closing out a therapeutic relationship without ghosting the therapist.

Ghosting - the act of suddenly cutting off all communication - has unfortunately seeped into the realm of therapy as well. When you ghost your therapist, you not only leave them clueless about your progress but also deprive yourself of the support and growth you truly deserve. 

As the name of this practice alludes, therapy is a space to practice the interactions that we might find most intimidating. So what are we gaining if we ghost our therapist? Just like we wouldn't leave our favorite ice cream melting on the sidewalk, we might benefit from thinking similarly about our therapeutic journey - don’t leave it hanging!

Respecting your therapist and yourself means expressing your feelings and reasons for parting ways openly. It allows your therapist to gain valuable feedback, learn, and adapt their approach for future clients. It's an opportunity for you to explore the thoughts and emotions surrounding the decision, fostering self-awareness and closure.

Remember, your therapist is here for you, and no matter how tough or tangled your thoughts may be, they're ready to help navigate the maze with you. So, instead of ghosting, although tempting, let’s explore some alternatives that open the lines of communication and pave the way for understanding growth, and healing, even in the closure.

1. Initiate the Conversation: When something doesn't feel right or this is no longer the right time or space for you to continue your therapeutic journey, take the courageous step of initiating the conversation with your therapist. 

2. Be Honest: Embrace honesty in your communication. Share your feelings openly and kindly, without the fear of judgment. Your therapist will appreciate your openness, and it can lead to a more meaningful dialogue.

3. Acknowledge the Connection: Recognize the connection you've established with your therapist. Express gratitude for their efforts and the progress made during your therapeutic journey.

4. Discuss Your Reasons: Whether it be financial constraints, goodness of fit, or other reasons that are contributing to your decision, talk about them! Your therapist might have suggestions or resources to support you in finding alternative options.

5. Timing is Essential: Choose an appropriate time to discuss ending the therapeutic relationship. Avoid leaving it until the last moment or at the end of a session, as this may not allow for a comprehensive conversation.

6. Be Open to Reflection: Be open to discussing any concerns or issues that may have contributed to your decision. It's an opportunity for self-growth and understanding patterns that could be addressed in the future.

Closure allows us to honor the past, embrace the present, and welcome the future. By not leaving a relationship without a proper goodbye, we foster respect, gratitude, and a sense of peace that can serve as a foundation for the next chapter of our lives. It's a gesture of kindness to ourselves and those who have supported us along the way.

So, my readers, when it's time to part ways with your therapist, do it with grace and appreciation. You are the author of your life's story, and each chapter, including the one with your therapist, contributes to the masterpiece you're creating. Embrace closure, embrace growth, and embrace the beauty of new beginnings.

Stay curious, stay informed, stay awesome ✨